Saturday, January 16, 2016

The Brownsville Rape


The Brownsville Rape.

For about a week now NYC metro media has been awash in a story of an 18 year old girl gang raped at gun point by five teens.

The young men allegedly pulled a gun on her father, told him to leave, and raped the girl.

The accused teens are named Denzel, Onandi, Shaquell, Ethan, and Travis. You will not be surprised to learn that they are African American. Few members of other ethnicities name their kids Shaquell.

The first time I heard this story on the news, my immediate reaction was, "I don't believe this. There is something fishy here."

Why? Why did I have that reaction?

It actually took me a while to examine the facts that were being reported and put two and two together and understand why I was suspicious, why I had that reaction upon hearing this story that I used to have when listening to Soviet-era media: I need to decode this, to see how facts are being used to service some agenda, and seek out authentic facts from underground media, and then examine those facts in turn.

First of all, and I'm going to sound very conspiracy theory here, the Brownsville rape story broke just after the Cologne migrant sex attacks story, and it seemed too perfect. "See?" NPR seemed to be saying. "Americans commit horrible sexual crimes, too."

But there's more.

Brownsville. What do we know about Brownsville? Brownsville has the highest concentration of public housing in the nation. It has one of the highest murder per capita rates.

Do I believe that an 18 year old girl living in Brownsville is going to a public park at *9 o'clock at night* in January when it's already been dark for four hours?

I do not believe that. I live in a neighborhood with lots of public housing and lots of violence. I do not go to public parks at nine pm in January, and when I walk past them I do not see 18 year old girls in them. Never. Ever.

Second thing I did not believe. Potentially controversial, I know.

Do I believe that an 18 year old girl, given Brownsville's demographics, probably African American, is with her father?

I do not believe that.

I know I'm not supposed to say this.

I don't see children with their fathers among my African American neighbors.

I see *young* children with *mothers.*

It is so rare for me to see an African American mother, father, and children together that I take note of it when I do see it.

Hispanics? Hispanics I see *constantly* in family groups. Constantly. I could look out my window right now and see Hispanic mother, father, kids, maybe an uncle. Going to the Falls together, going shopping together. Some invisible glue unites them.

African Americans? This is what I see: Groups of single teen and adult men hanging out on the street. Lone African American men hanging out on the street. All day long. Constant sight. Conversing, smoking dope, sitting on stoops, sitting on a palette laid down on the street, boom box beside him. There's a guy across the street who does that all summer.

I see: Women with little babies.

Intact, nuclear families? Never. Don't see it.

So, I didn't believe the "18 year old girl with her father" part of the story.

What has transpired since the news just broke.

NPR is NOT reporting this. They *are* reporting the initial allegation: girl gang raped by five boys with a gun who chased away her father. They don't report this part. That's censorship.

Two of the alleged rapists *parents* turned them in. That their *parents* turned them in tells you that something is up. I'm guessing that these parents felt that there was exculpating evidence proving that their sons were not guilty. I could be wrong, but that's why I think they went to the police themselves.

What's up?

The alleged rapists are saying that they found the girl having sex with her father in the park. The police say they have no evidence to support this charge.

The alleged rapists say that they have cell phone video of the girl, half undressed, consenting to sex with two of the alleged assailants. The police acknowledge some video but say it is brief.

Further, store owners and customers say that when the father asked for help, he was so drunk he was incoherent.

Further, the girl has apparently never even met her father until recently, is not living with her mother, and lives in foster homes.

The girl allegedly bit a police officer who attempted to rescue her from the alleged rape.

The girl protested that she has PTSD and bipolar disorder.

At this point nobody knows if any of this is true.

Why I mention this.

I have taught young people like this. Young people whose life resembles a long tumble in a washing machine -- up, down, here, there, no father, mother disappears, living with auntie, living in foster homes, drugs, casual sex, abortions, no concept of love or the sacredness of intimacy or of their own bodies.

They have been screwed over by society. By *everybody* on the right and left alike.

Yes, I think that old fashioned values and expectations punishments and rewards are the *only* thing that will save abandoned and betrayed children like this.

Yes I think that the liberal message of "White people are rich and privileged and evil and your only salvation is to take their riches through theft or welfare and anything bad that happens to you today is caused by the slavery that ended in the mid nineteenth century" is poison.

All these kids are just as human as you or I. And they could be rehabilitated through old fashioned values.

More Al Sharpton style liberal whine whine gimme gimme or Ferguson style rioting... might as well be a neuro toxin in the water supply.

Europe's Muslim Migration Crisis: Is America to Blame? Or George Bush? (No.)

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Europe is inundated with Muslim migrants. There is social unrest – see New Year's Eve mass sex attacks by Muslim men on European women – and terrorism. See Paris.

Many on the left insist that America is to blame. America invaded Iraq. If America had not invaded Iraq, there would be no migrants.

The "It's all America's fault; this is happening because of the Iraq War" Is a big, fat lie.

How do you know it's a big, fat lie?

You know it's a big, fat lie because

1.) The majority of the migrants are not coming from Iraq. In fact they are not coming from countries against which America has engaged in military hostilities, example, Eritrea, Mali, Somalia, Nigeria, Senegal, Gambia, Syria, etc. Chart linked below.

2.) The Islamization of Europe began in the 1960s, not in the 2000s. These events have been brewing for a long time.

3.) European policy and European choices shape the migration, the Islamization, and the social unrest. Europe asked for this, and Europe got it.

Why are Leftists telling big, fat lies about the migrants? Because "truth is that which serves the party." Because leftists want power. Because they are at war against the West and big, fat lies – propaganda – are their weapon.

Here's the leftist strategy: If something bad happens – anything bad, anywhere in the world – do not blame proximate causes or actors. Find some way to pin blame on the West: America, Christianity, white men. If you stub your toe, it is America, and George Bush's, and the pope's fault.  

How did so many military-age Muslim men end up in Europe? And why are so many of them behaving destructively?

Because Europeans invited them, and because Europe handled them very badly.

Here's the history:

Nazi Germany committed unspeakable crimes against humanity in the name of racial purity.

After the war, Europeans decided that racism was the worst sin and that "tolerance" and "diversity" and "multiculturalism" were the highest virtues.

Translation: Europe is guilty and bad. Western Civilization is guilty and bad. Anything other than Western Civilization is benign.

Also after the war, Europe needed to resurrect economically. For that, Europe needed workers.

Europe had suffered two catastrophic, population-reducing wars back to back: World War I and World War II. Before those wars, there had been mass migration to America from Eastern and Southern Europe. Europe was *depopulated.* It needed people.

Too, after the war, European women's birth rates plummeted. Western European women have some of the lowest birth rates in the world. The birth-rate per woman in Germany is 1.38.

Also, Europeans voted in socialist programs. The famous "free health care" and guaranteed employment and lengthy vacations. Someone had to pay for all those social programs.

Europe had colonized Muslim-majority countries. France had colonized Algeria and Morocco. England had colonized what would become Pakistan – in fact England participated in creating Pakistan, a country that had previously never existed. Spain had also colonized Morocco. Holland had colonized Indonesia.

These Western European countries had ties with overseas Muslim populations.

Germany officially invited Muslim workers from Turkey. They were called "gastarbeiter" or guest workers. Other countries invited in their former colonial subjects.

Muslims, for their part, were more than happy to leave their homelands. In Muslim-majority countries following Muslim custom, Muslim women and girls are often pressured, if not forced, to marry young and to produce many children. Many Muslim countries are stagnating economically. There are not enough jobs for booming populations. Muslim men wanted to go overseas to get work.

Conspiracy theorists on the right will tell you that the Muslim migration to Europe is part of a plot of Muslims to take over the world through migration, aka "hijra." It's true that some Muslim clerics speak of this, but if the economic push and pull factors were not there – poverty at home and jobs abroad – they would not be traveling.

Once these poor Muslims arrived in Western Europe, Western Europe did not invite them to assimilate. Rather, it encouraged them to live apart from mainstream European society. Many commentators say that this is because while Western Europeans were ostensibly "tolerant" and "diverse," they really didn't like their new Muslim neighbors, and kept them apart out of disdain. So, Muslim-only neighborhoods, and no-go areas, were born.

Also, some commentators say that Europeans were engaged in a kind of virtue competition with America. They saw America, in the 1960s, struggling with Civil Rights. They wanted to prove how "tolerant" Europeans were, so they invited Muslims *not* to assimilate to prove their own tolerance to alien cultures.

There are numerous books about this process; read one. A few good ones are listed below.

"Londonistan" by Melanie Philips

"Eurabia" by Bat Yeor

"While Europe Slept" by Bruce Bawer

"America Alone" by Mark Steyn


Economist migration chart

Sunday, January 10, 2016

Frank: The Voice by James Kaplan. Book Review: Magnificent



James Kaplan's "Frank: The Voice" offers an intimate portrait of a truly weird human being, a portrait as deep as anything you might read in an Ancient Greek tragedy. Sinatra's life was intertwined with the lives of major entertainment figures like Bing Crosby, Gene Kelly, Louis B. Mayer, and of course Ava Gardner, as well as Mafiosi, and politicians. This book offers a panoply of life in mid-twentieth-century America.

I'd read two previous Sinatra books: Kitty Kelley's "His Way: The Unauthorized Biography of Frank Sinatra" and "The Way You Wear Your Hat: Frank Sinatra and the Lost Art of Livin'" by Bill Zehme. The Zehme book, as the title suggests, is a light-hearted guide to gentleman's style, as mentored by Frank.

The Kitty Kelley book filled me with revulsion. The Frank in those pages is a creep, more of a tabloid headline, and a social climber desperate for fame, than a worthy artist. Two anecdotes from the Kelley book stand out: how badly Sinatra treated his friend and songwriter, Jimmy Van Heusen (the Norman Rockwell painting anecdote) and how badly Sinatra treated Humphrey Bogart's wife, and then widow, Lauren Bacall.

Kelley mocks Sinatra's Hoboken accent and his elocution lessons. Kelley quotes someone who knew young Frank "He spoke with deze dem and dose diction. He had a terrible New Jersey accent, but it didn't show in his singing. It's like the Japanese who sing English and sound just like us. If you can string it out into syllables, it will sound right, and that's what Frank did, I guess." Kelley also mocked the indecipherable Southern accent Ava Gardner had when she first arrived in Hollywood, and her autobiographical statement about "picking bugs off of tobacco plants." Kelley quoted an MGM producer who dismissed Gardner as a profitable no-talent. "She can't act, she can't talk, but she's a terrific piece of merchandise."

In short, the Kelley book reflects one major stream in the American response to Sinatra. Sinatra, in the Kelley book and in the mind of many Americans, was a sleazy upstart with all the wrong pedigree: he was from New Jersey, a contemptible state, he was Italian-American, his mother was a sometime abortionist. Trash.

James Kaplan's "Frank: The Voice" leaves Kelley's bio, and all contemptuous dismissals or trivialization of Sinatra, in the dust. Anyone interested in Sinatra and indeed in twentieth century American popular culture will want to read this book. It is probably the most detailed, well researched biography of Sinatra that we will ever have.

As I read the book's final pages, tears flowed down my cheeks. Though I was mere pages away from completing the book, and eager to do so, I had to close it and turn away and think about many things.

I was astounded by this. The book had made me feel as if Sinatra were a fellow human. Given how extreme Sinatra's biography is, and how loathsome his behavior all too often was, that Kaplan was able to wring tears from me was a remarkable accomplishment. To see the humanity in a remote character is a profound accomplishment of good writing.

Kaplan keeps his sentences short and easy to understand. He eschews big words, and mocks one writer for apparently using a thesaurus. Kaplan's style is almost pulp fiction, it is almost film noir, but it is not that artistically ambitious. Rather, it is the rat-a-tat-tat style of who-what-when-where-why journalism. Whether he is describing Sinatra doing something cruel, kind, or self-destructive – like slitting his own wrist – Kaplan just reports what happened, and makes almost no attempt to embellish, analyze or moralize. At first, I found Kaplan's lack of literary ambition off-putting; I love beautiful writing. By the end of the book, though, the mere accumulation of facts themselves was moving enough for me. I didn't need pretty prose.

There are many dirty words in this book. It opens with a description of Sinatra's childhood home, "Guinea Town," as "s - - - - flecked." Kaplan interjects the name of God as an expletive, and he uses the f word. We all know why. Sinatra spoke this way, as did his milieu.  

Sinatra screwed around. Epic screwing around. Screwing around while single, while married, while his friends were in the next room. He used fans, fellow megastars, and prostitutes – "blond, brunette, and brown sugar" – in singles, doubles, and with friends. He thus hurt the women he loved and it's undeniable that he hurt himself. Frank loved Ava; Ava dumped Frank, so she said, because she knew he could not be faithful.

Kaplan makes zero attempt to plumb the moral depths of this ravenous, epic screwery. I kept craving that – I really wanted to hear someone say, "This level of debauchery may sound appealing but it causes much human suffering. What was going on with Frank that he needed cheap hookers when he was married to the most beautiful woman in the world?" But Kaplan never raises the question. He does, though, describe Frank's relationship with the shrink his friends forced on him after one of his multiple suicide attempts.

Kaplan details Frank's early years as the alternately abused and spoiled son of Dolly Sinatra, a local mover and shaker, and silent ne'er do well Marty. Frank was emotionally unstable, oversexed, and immature from the start. He was also talented and ambitious. His early career as a singer was meteoric.

And then it all came crashing down. Sinatra was hugely talented, and, when it came to his art, very hard working. Suddenly, none of that mattered. Professional blow followed professional blow. As much as you might hate Sinatra the creep, you can't help but admire Sinatra the dogged artist who refused to give up when maybe only his first wife, Nancy Barbato, still believed in him. And you can't help but think that maybe you had been too judgmental of that friend whose life went south. It can happen to the best of us, no matter how hard we try.

At the same time that Sinatra's professional life was crashing, he was falling in love with, divorcing his wife for, marrying and feuding with MGM film star Ava Gardner. Their affair is out of a bestselling novel or a Broadway play.

The received story is that Frank and Ava was one of the great love affairs of the twentieth century. To me it read like cockroaches mating. They drank. They smoked. They fought, sometimes physically. They cheated on each other. They publicly humiliated each other. He was utterly obsessed with her. The image of him drinking alone with her photograph, tearing up the photograph, then getting on his knees to put the pieces back together, then mourning because he could not find her nose, then rejoicing when a delivery boy bringing more booze stirred up a breeze that brought the nose floating down, then Frank giving the delivery boy the gold watch he was wearing – it's operatic.

I hated Ava Gardner while reading this book. Her great asset was her beauty, and she did nothing to earn that – it was an accident of birth. Unlike Sinatra, she had no art she cared about. Kaplan quotes her as saying that her favorite thing to do was "nothing." That's all too believable. Gardner comes across as a selfish, shallow, non-entity, just a bundle of selfish and temporary appetites spun together in an all-too-attractive form. She doesn't even rise to the level of being interestingly evil.

The one person I could like is Nancy Barbato Sinatra, Frank's first wife. I don't know if in real life she was the saint she is depicted as here, but in all the partying, successes, failures, show business, Mafia ties and politics herein, she is the one "fixed foot," the one stable, human, loving presence. The event that made me cry in the final pages involved Nancy Barbato Sinatra and a St. Genesius medal. Nancy's gesture, in a world of Hollywood fakery, is human, and truly exemplary of the word "love."

We care about Frank Sinatra, primarily, because of his singing career. Kaplan spins on a dime and goes from lurid accounts of smashups, abortions, and orgies to delicate, aesthetically detailed analyses of Sinatra's key songs. I've listened to a lot of Sinatra, and Kaplan's commentary illuminates these songs for me in new ways. After reading his analysis of Sinatra's 1954 "Songs for Young Lovers" recording of "A Foggy Day in London Town," I had to listen to the song five times in a row in order to fully appreciate the book's comments.

In addition to a soap opera bio and a sensitive appreciation of an artist's output, Kaplan's book gets Sinatra's ethnicity, and America's frequent hostility to Sinatra's ethnicity, home state of New Jersey, and his blue collar roots exactly right. Kaplan has combed the press contemporaneous with Sinatra's life. Powerful journalists were quite open about denigrating Sinatra for being Italian and for being a New Jersey parvenu who had no right to America's riches, economic, social, or erotic. Kaplan places Sinatra's genuine and important support for Civil Rights in this context.

"Frank: The Voice" is 800 pages long. Never have I cared less about the length of a book. It is only part one of Kaplan's bio. It ends with Sinatra winning the Academy Award for "From Here to Eternity."

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Last Christmas Under Communism in Poland

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The last Christmas in Poland under Communism.

So, because I am alone in the universe, I have this fraught relationship with Christmas.

But Christmas in Poland under Communism ... the last Christmas in Poland under Communism ...

Poland was so grim in 1988-89. It was like living inside a Kafka novella. The air was heavy and grey like lead. Steel mill pollution. Two people I knew, in their twenties, had heart attacks. Food lines. None of the color that comes from capitalist advertising.

Post Solidarity. Post martial law. Post hope.

People bitter, resigned, hurting, drunks lying in the street. Going to the best restaurant in a major city and the waiter taking your coat and seating you and you go down the menu and he just says "Nie ma nie ma" over and over. "We don't have that." And you just leave, having eaten nothing. Nothing to be had.

Going to a major conference center and finding a toilet that has no paper and cannot flush.

Bureaucrats screwing you over in petty, malicious ways. A half hour procedure just to get a piece of mail.

The riots. I think we rioted because we wanted to end communism, but also because rioting was the only source of excitement.

And then Christmas season. In all that coal smell and meanness, something genuinely magic happened and I cannot describe it at all. Not like here. No huge sums of money invested in marketing. No government sponsored Christmas displays.

You had to go into churches, and you, and everybody, went into churches all the time. Medieval churches. Renaissance churches. Modern churches. Every few steps a church. Always open. Candles. People praying.

The parishoners handmade Christmas decorations. One display made of little, handmade puppets of Catholic figures, including John Paul II. The carols! No nation's carols beats Polish carols. They are so, so, so lovely. Gems. Jewels.

People would stand on line forever to get carp for the Christmas eve dinner.

I had planned Christmas alone, but the Poles would not have it. A woman alone on Christmas? Not possible!

This crazy, wonderful Polish woman insisted I go to her family's wigilia, or Christmas eve feast.

Because life was so dead, so denied, so nothing, people exploded with their own selves, if they had something inside to explode. These skinny, small, pale, thin-haired Poles in threadbare clothing, were all writing plays they produced themselves, or staged wild dances, or would jump up, totally drunk after a liter of vodka, and start pounding out Chopin from a piano. Just human beings going off like firecrackers, because there was no interference to stop them. Where there is no hope, there is often no fear.

This girl designed clothes. She designed a dress made of tree limbs she set alight. It was wild.

Heavy makeup. Black, flowing clothing. But for all that, she was a traditional Polish girl at heart. WOULD NOT hear of me spending Christmas alone.

Her family's apartment in Krakow was about as large and appealing as the bathroom stall in a MacDonald's. Paint chipping off walls. Dim. They kept turning lights off because if the light bulb burned out, you couldn't get a new one.

The table was magnificent. Beautiful table cloth. The traditional extravaganza of courses. Little baby pierogie stuffed with mushrooms. All prepared in a minimal kitchen fit for a prison cell.

There were oplatki. communion wafer with nativity scenes stamped into them. You walk up to your fellow diner, hold out your oplatek, and say, "Wszystkiago Najlepszego," "all the best," and you take a small portion of theirs, and they take a small portion of yours, and you eat it. You do that until you have communed with everyone in the room, and your oplatek is all gone. This is Poland. We are in this together. Sharing sustenance is a sacred ritual.

The phone rang. The young designer answered it, and spoke with warmth and animation. After she hung up, she said it was her grandfather. "Did you get to speak to your grandmother too?" "No, she died in Auschwitz," said very casually, off hand. No big deal.


I wish I could convey the warmth, the magic, the music, the light in darkness, the wave of undeniable hope, that Poles created that last Christmas under communism. It makes me want to weep.

From Crazy Polish Guy

Monday, December 14, 2015

My Name Is Mahtob "Not Without My Daughter" Grows Up: Book Review


This review first appeared at FrontPage magazine here

"Not Without My Daughter"'s Mahtob Mahmoody Grows Up
"My Name Is Mahtob": A Woman's Life in Iran and in America

A recent American college graduate was traveling in Chad, a Muslim-majority nation in North Africa. The pickup truck broke down. Passengers rested in a roadside stand of hammered-together boards. A Chadian man was traveling with his wife. She was fully veiled, in spite of the Saharan heat. Her husband did not speak to her. He controlled her with gestures and sounds, as if she were a dog. At his command, she squatted on the dirt floor, her covered face against an interior wall of the shack. As her husband conversed animatedly with the American, and bought him drinks and snacks, she squatted silently, hour after hour, probably both hungry and thirsty, until another conveyance arrived.

It's been thirty years since that young American told me that story. I think of that squatting, silenced, shrouded Chadian woman often. I think of millions of other captives like her. One of the first things I saw in Africa, before I had even unpacked my bags, was a female genital mutilation ceremony. Peace Corps Volunteers tend to be young Kennedys: very left-wing, often affluent and recent graduates of elite colleges who make worshipful references to progressive professors and other heroes. How did volunteers reconcile their culturally relativistic ideals that forbade any condemnation of non-Western culture, with the non-Western world's often atrocious treatment of women? This is how. They told themselves and each other, "The women here like how things are. These women are happy."

In private and in whispers, village women in Africa and Asia confided secrets to me that did not square with this item of Peace Corps dogma. When I published village women's transgressive truths in essays, one of my fellow Peace Corps Volunteers threatened to beat me up. A Peace Corps trainer accused me of being a "terrorist."

Mahtob Mahmoody is the eponymous daughter of the 1987 international publishing phenomenon, Not Without My Daughter, and the 1991 film by the same name. Not Without My Daughter tells the story of Betty and Dr. Sayyed Mahmoody. Betty and "Moody" met and married in the US. He had been charming and Westernized. He drank alcohol, forbidden in Islam. After the 1979 Iranian Revolution, he became a zealous, observant Muslim. Exploiting first amendment rights to freedom of speech, Moody organized demonstrations against the United States. In 1984, the Mahmoody family traveled to his native country. In Iran, Moody told Betty that he'd never let her leave. After eighteen months, Betty managed to get herself and her daughter smuggled out of the country.

Betty had asked American officials for help, and her case became a cause célèbre. Neither Betty nor Mahtob ever had the chance of anonymity. The William Morris Agency began aggressively petitioning Betty for a book shortly after her arrival in the US. Betty could escape Moody by disappearing into something like the witness protection program and never having contact with her extended family again, or by using fame to protect her. She opted for fame. She became a published author and campaigner for parents of kidnapped children.

Mahtob is now 36, and able to tell her own story. My Name Is Mahtob is superb. It is more than a page-turner that addresses sensational, headline-making family scandal and international intrigue. It is a flawlessly written, exquisitely intimate memoir of the coming of age of a timid introvert who had to find her own version of strength after fame was thrust upon her. It is a record of how someone who suffers more than outsiders might imagine reconciles her trials with Christian faith. It is a heart-rending account of the irrational ugliness of child abuse, and the Catch-22, dead-end mazes that abusive parents force upon their own innocent children. It is, in places, a terrifying account of being stalked.

If you are a father, I ask you to imagine how your daughter would write of you in her memoir. Through you, your daughter learned how to love and trust a man. Your daughter learned that men have beards, and deeper voices, and are good with tools. In any memoir I'd write of my dad, I'd mention his ferocious dedication, no matter how old he got, to keeping his sidewalks clear of snow. I'd mention my confidence that no matter where or when my car broke down, he'd rescue me.

Young Mahtob Mahmoody, on the other hand, dreams of her father as a wild animal. He is "in midair, paws outstretched, on the verge of tearing my body to shreds. Drool dripped from its fangs … I hugged my Cabbage Patch doll … I had wet the bed." Mahtob quotes her dad talking to her mother, "If you ever touch the telephone, I'll kill you … If you ever walk out that door, I'll kill you … I'll send the ashes of a burned American flag back over your body." Mahtob describes Moody beating Betty. "He took clumps of her hair in both hands and brutally bashed her head against the wall." "His fists pounded into Mom, calling her a saag, a dog, a most detested and filthy creature in the Persian culture." "I wanted to get away from my dad and his threats, his beatings and the terrifying sound of his angry footsteps." Mahtob describes her mother sleeping. "first came the snoring, and when the snoring stopped the screaming began. 'Moody, no,' she'd beg…She kicked, scratched, and pleaded."

Even after return to America, Mahtob lived "every day of my life with the intense dread of my world being turned on end with the flip of a switch … the threat of my dad lurked in every shadow." Eventually, Mahtob is diagnosed with systemic lupus erythematosus. "I was quite literally under the constant threat of attack from my own flesh and blood." Mahtob understands the illness as a physical manifestation of the threat her father.

I am reminded of culturally relativistic Peace Corps dogma: "The women here like how things are. These women are happy." Mahtob Mahmoody certainly did not intend her memoir to be a window into and an indictment of Muslim gender apartheid and patriarchal privilege. It is, unavoidably, that.

Here's what My Name Is Mahtob is not. It is not an anti-Muslim or anti-Islamic or anti-Iran racist screed. Agitators have accused Not Without My Daughter, both book and film, of being "racist." Websites that host discussions of the book and the film include comments by angry Muslims that the story is the product of all-powerful "Zionists;" see, for example, here. In fact the same Western publishers and audiences who championed Not Without My Daughter also supported very affectionate depictions of Muslim father-daughter relationships in the critically acclaimed and financially successful I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai and Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi.

Betty Mahmoody loved her husband and his world. Many Iranian Muslims, from shopkeepers to smugglers to a complete stranger met on a park bench, planned and carried out Betty's flight to freedom. She can't name these heroes but she describes them indelibly. No one who has read either book could help but be moved by these heroes' courage, compassion, and dedication. Mahtob's Iranian honorary "Uncle" Kombiz is one of the wisest and most endearing characters of her book.

Mahtob is herself proudly half Persian, as she makes clear from the opening to the closing pages of My Name is Mahtob. The Persian No-ruz, or New Year's custom of haft-sin is the framing device for the entire book. Mahtob, now a mental health professional, diagnoses her father as suffering from the ethnicity-neutral condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The word "Islam" barely appears. We all know that there are men of all nations and creeds who abuse their wives, and that there are parents everywhere who abuse their children. We know, too, that not all Muslims nor all Iranians abuse their wives and children.

It's impossible to forget, though, that Moody's abuse was sanctioned by his religion and his culture. Iranian law and Muslim custom supported his absolute dominance. Mahtob does not mention this, but Koran 4:34 advises men to beat their wives, and male dominance in the household is so thorough in Islamic jurisprudence that even a woman's breast milk is her husband's property. Moody's extended family watched him beat Betty and did not intervene. Mahtob watched Iranian boys and girls play house; the boys ordered the girls around. The girls allowed their chadors to slip, and the boys threatened them with punishment for this infraction.

After Betty and Mahtob escaped, Moody, still in Iran, deputized allies in the US to stalk Mahtob. One stalker broke into her apartment and left his scatological calling card in her toilet. There were hang-up phone calls, gunshots, and the disappearance of a family dog. Mahtob had to live with the fear of being the victim of an honor killing.

Moody could not bring himself to apologize to Mahtob, even as he obsessed on her accomplishments. It was important to him publicly to claim a relationship to a daughter who had been named valedictorian of her college class. When he finally phoned, all he could say is that Mahtob is Muslim, and he will never allow her to be anything but Muslim. She responded sarcastically, "I thought he might say he misses me and he hopes I'm happy."

Moody's inability to apologize, his insistence on dominating Mahtob's spiritual life, and his grandiose obsession with worldly markers of success are certainly the signatures of narcissism, but they will also be familiar to anyone who has read Raphael Patai's The Arab Mind and Bernard Lewis' What Went Wrong and The Crisis of Islam. These books discuss the importance of honor and the discomfort many Muslims feel when confronting the gulf between the economic and cultural failings of their own nations and the advance of the rest of the world, and attempts to compensate for shame with grandiosity.  

Mahtob uses Christian disciplines like forgiveness, gratitude, love and prayer to find peace. Moody's Islam did not bequeath to him the incredible graces of unconditional love, humility, and ritualized confession. To his last, Moody cultivated anger, self-pity, and revenge. He obsessed on Betty and Mahtob, but he could never experience that peace that he would have known had he merely humbly confessed to his loved ones that he had failed, he had hurt them, and he needed to be forgiven. He could not love Mahtob no matter what she decided to be; he had to love a Mahtob who submitted to Islam.  

Though Mahtob gives every indication that she does not want her book to be a microcosm of Islamic gender relations and relations between the Muslim and non-Muslim worlds, it is. Even the paranoid and hostile reaction of too many Islam-apologists to the books is a reflection of Islam's lack of emphasis on confession and forgiveness and the excessive emphasis on keeping up worldly appearances of grandeur. Betty and Mahtob are telling true stories that need to be told. It will benefit Muslims when they can say, "We welcome these women's testimony. Their frankness will help us to clean our own house."

In addition to her personal story, Mahtob offers insightful descriptions of both Iran and the US. Mahtob describes being a child in Iran. The Pasdar, or virtue police, armed with automatic weapons, threaten women whose socks droop. Schoolchildren are daily forced to desecrate an American flag and chant "Death to America." They are also encouraged to inform on mothers who don't wear hijab at home and parents who drink alcohol or listen to music. In class there is only chanting by rote, no questioning, no working through intellectual challenges. Given a plastic "key to paradise," many Iranian children are seduced into the suicidal service of clearing landmines. Gunshots are a common sound; there are public executions and there are simple disappearances. These passages bring to mind George Orwell's 1984 and Bernard Lewis' essay "Communism and Islam."

It would be nice if Mahtob could report that she never encounters such indoctrination in American schools; such is not the case. Mahtob's American professor asks her how the universe came to be. God created it, Mahtob replies. Her American professor "berates, humiliates, and cruelly rebukes" her so badly that other students approach Mahtob after class to comfort her. Mahtob learns that the famous quote about not agreeing with an opinion, but defending to the death the right to express an opinion, does not apply on American college campuses. "Christianity had become taboo. I vowed never to open my mouth in class again … Maybe this class is a means to an end. Maybe it's better to just keep quiet, pass the class, and move on."


My Name Is Mahtob is one of those memoirs that is so well written that this reader found it impossible not to come to love the author. Mahtob is a quiet introvert and one senses how hard it was for her to get this story down, and to share it with the world. She has aroused in this reader not just awe for her writing skills, and compassion for all she has endured, but also gratitude. 

Saturday, December 12, 2015

Frank Sinatra: An Immigrant's Soul, a Nation's Voice


Frank Sinatra: An Immigrant's Soul, a Nation's Voice
The Ryder June 12, 1998

Others better qualified have already told you why every pop radio station, singer and fan had cause, if not sense, to pause for a moment on May 15.  All I can do is tell you why this baby boomer, no bobby soxer, spent her free time that day commiserating with others on the internet, watching black and white film clips on CNN, and nursing grief.

My age peers just don’t get it.  Frank Sinatra had already peaked, fallen, risen, been, in short, a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a pawn and a king well before I was born, never mind bought my first Tiger Beat.

“Sinatra’s reactionary,” they’d point out.  “A symbol of the worst in pre-feminist macho.”  Oh, please, spare me cultural analysis by those whose grandmas spoke English.

The so-called ‘New Immigrants’ from Eastern and Southern Europe began entering this country around 1880.  Ships brought Sinatra’s parents and my own.  The flood stopped after our racial inferiority was canonized in the quota acts of 1924 and 1929.

These New Immigrants (not alone, or exclusively, but significantly) clustered in cities near Ellis Island: Brooklyn, the Bronx, Newark, Jersey City.  The guys were Frank, Tony, Bruno, Stanley, Joe, Moishe, Abe.  The women were often Maria, Sophia, Rosa.  They worked in mines, factories, construction, garbage hauling.  Sometimes the men boxed for money.  Round-cheeked grandmas made bootleg liquor.  They survived the Depression and fought, and won, World War II.

They had incredible stories.  Another Frank, laughing and proud, tells me of his Italian grandmother breaking the arm of a sweatshop foreman.  This boss used to march up and down the aisle, lifting women’s skirts, sure they couldn't resist because they were poor and foreign and if they made any quick move at the mechanized loom, they’d lose a finger or hand.  That grandma had to reverse immigrate to hide out in her village for a while. 

They spent hot summer nights on the fire escape, or went down to Coney Island and slept on the beach.  Nobody ever closed her back door and only a traveling salesman would knock. 

Everybody knew everybody else.  If you talked long enough, you would find out that my uncle knew your cousin who arrested him, or saved his life in the war, or dated his niece. 

They claimed that in the old country their aunt met Archduke Ferdinand.  That in the old country all they had to eat were potatoes. That in the old country they had to kiss the landowner's hand.  There was dark talk of whips, Cossacks, vendettas, frenzied escape. 

And they just got sick of it one day, and with just the clothes on their back and a feather quilt, they up and left and arrived with nothing, and have been scrambling ever since. 

They’d show ‘em.  They’d be more American than the flag.  But if you knew to look, you could hear the grateful, giddy greenhorn peeking through every Black jive “Cool, man,” you could see the jut in the jaw of the determined parvenu under that WASP tuxedo.  You could hear the stifled laughter.  “Ha, ha.  We made it in spite of you.”  But eventually they'd relax and you'd hear "Ach, yai," and "paison" and be fed pignoli cookies so delicious you wished you had an extra tongue.

At their best, like Sinatra, they didn't learn the white racism that didn't exist in their own countries. At their best, like Sinatra, they befriended black people and adopted and celebrated black artistic expression.  In any case, their mere confusing presence, white but not quite, gave American racism a run for its money. 

They shared everything but would take no charity.  They had gargantuan capacity for work.  Work was a necessary daily sacrament.  We'd be limp, translucent at sunset after one street game.  Grandpa would still be in the garden, bad heart and everything, sucking on his pipe, working till he dropped in place.  Decade after decade, showing up, punching the clock, everybody at the plant their buddy.

Sinatra comes from a long line of apologies.  Not just Italian; Sicilian.  On the kind of ethnic gameboard I was born on, one quickly learned that Sicilian is the lowest Wop there is.  It’s almost unbearably poignant that when he first arrived in America, Sinatra’s Sicilian father tried to increase social acceptance by calling himself Marty O’Brien.  Admit it – your heart bleeds for such a greenhorn.

Sinatra had all of 47 days of high school.  His talent purchased enough stature to be exploited by John F. Kennedy in a run for the presidency.  But not enough to be kept around after the election was won.  Bobby told his brother to end the relationship with the unsavory Sinatra.  Sinatra, son of a culture that prizes loyalty above all, was ejected like bad rubbish from the White House he’d helped win.

The side of Sinatra Bobby Kennedy found unsuitable was waspishly referred to in obituaries.  “A Hidden Dark Side,” one headline read.  Heavens.  Sinatra occasionally became angry.  He occasionally threatened those who hurt his friends.  He told his ex-wife Mia Farrow, in what sounds like self-parody, that if she wanted, he would break Woody Allen’s legs after Allen broke Farrow’s heart in the creepiest way imaginable. 

Assessments of such behavior as a hidden dark side are rooted in WASP ideals, and have no purchase for people like me.  Anger at injustice, fighting wrong, are virtues in the value system taught me.  Some people use fists more readily than words or courts.  I grew up among peasants, physically strong people.  They had fists.  They had no English, no entrée to the wider culture.  When you take away such people’s immediate outrage, when you deny them their bodies, you castrate them.  Rather, it was the values promoted in the wider culture which were crimes to us: be cold., abandon friends, do not express.

Yes, Sinatra palled around with mobsters.  He explained that mobsters were part of the saloon scene he worked in; he said, “If my name didn’t end with a vowel, I wouldn’t have had all this trouble.”

Mario Puzo, in talking about the appeal of "The Godfather," said that Vito Corleone offered disempowered people a resource they could turn to if they got screwed.  Any assessment of the Mafia would have to factor in the racism, marginalization, and desperation the New Immigrants faced.  As long as the system excludes you, you need another system.  As a friend of mine from Newark once said, "When the WASPs do it it's called ‘free enterprise;’ when we do it, it's called ‘organized crime.’”

Sinatra’s work passionately performs the New Immigrants’ remembered bruises.  The one movie role he crawled on his belly to get was not that of a macho, swaggering winner.  Sinatra pulled strings and took less than scale to play Maggio, in “From Here to Eternity.”  Maggio is a quintessential New Immigrant. His horizontal relations are good -- he’s a loyal buddy to his peers.  But he chafes at, rebels against, oppressive authority.  Skinny private Maggio takes on sadistic, powerful Sergeant Judson.  Judson, after insulting Maggio’s sister, and calling Maggio a “Little Wop,” beats Maggio to death.

Young Sinatra supported candidates to the left of the mainstream in the Democratic Party.  He won a special Academy Award for “The House I Live In,” advocating racial and religious tolerance.  He demanded that African American audience members and performers at his concerts receive equal treatment.  He raised money for civil rights.

But Sinatra, is, most importantly, a singer, and it is in this opus that I readily see the subversive Sinatra so invisible to my age, but delightful to my ethnic, peers.  I come from New Jersey, a state you mock.  It’s automatic, you don’t have to question the racism and classism behind mocking blue color Polaks and Wops jammed into culture-free urbs.  I measure success by how often I am told:  "Are you from Europe?  What!  New Jersey! You don't sound like you are from New Jersey.”  My lack of a New Jersey accent is not accidental.

Sinatra was more subversive than Kurt Cobain or Marilyn Manson.  Mobbing the field and destroying the net is a gesture limited in its appeal to our lizard brains; it leaves us sensorily starved and can’t engage as true subversion does.  It is breathtaking to watch a genius risk everything in wresting the racket from reigning stars and playing to win.  Sinatra won so unquestionably he changed the game forever. 

Sinatra played by the rules that served him.  He was immaculate.  He kept his hair, the stigmata of those hairy New Immigrants, short and neat.  He wore, not just the very best clothing, but the very best clothing for the most exclusive venues: tuxedos, always a hat. 

And then he got up on stage and presented America with a male so new shocked girls rioted to be near him.  He sang songs written for women.  He surrendered his voice, face and body to the humiliations and hopes of love with an emotional presence, intensity, intelligence and irony, that was unfamiliar to his audiences.  And Sinatra sang in a New Jersey accent.  Not just the a’s and o’s, but the architecture, the energy, the temperature, the values.  When Sinatra introduces that ethos into a song, it is no longer laughable, marginalized.  It is canonized.

He could do it, doing it meaning, for Sinatra, changing the face of American popular music forever, thanks to the unapproachable virtuosity he acquired though his own gargantuan capacity for work.  “This is how you become a singer,” he said.  “You eat songs.  You breathe songs.  You sleep songs.  Then maybe you begin to get something.”  He could do it because he endured it all, being put down by chance, fashion, love, bad health, and he came back for more, taking low paying jobs, recording bad songs like “Mamma will bark.” He could do it because, while he didn’t always follow all the rules, he made bonds of passion, he lead from his heart.

In Sinatra’s opus I hear the appetite for life, in its grittiest, least fancy forms, for camaraderie, for let's get the gang together and never sit down as long as the music is playing, that is the soul of a Polish wedding.  I hear the kind of vitality that, yes, might result in the occasional brawl, the occasional politically incorrect remark.  What do you want?  You won’t get from Sinatra the American Puritanism that sometimes manifests as a witch trial, sometimes as political correctness.  You will get life.

I hear the kind of determined appetite for life that I used to see in red nosed alcoholic uncles four times older than I who would, truly, never sit down as long as music was playing.  The dark was allowed in that energy.  The darkness came from what these people had seen.  Striking loved ones beaten to death by company thugs.  Hunger that looked like it was going to win.  The frustration of not speaking the language of anyone in power.  I hear those hard things in Sinatra, maybe just in a phrasing, maybe just in the way he caresses one word, and I get shivers.  In Sinatra's “Duets” album, he sang, for the umpteenth time, "One for my baby and one more for the road"  As ancient as he was, as many times as he had sung this song, this treatment of it was absolutely essential.  He wrung his exposed, decayed voice of every drop of pathos and meaning.  He worked that garden until he dropped in place.

This is American music, all right, but it’s American music the way Sinatra made it.  There’s no mint julep here.  No twang.  There is a saloon in Hoboken.

Sinatra has been called the first anti-hero.  Maybe so, but there’s a difference between Sinatra and some others since who just pulled down the net.  In Sinatra’s music, you get irony, but it’s not a detached irony.  Sinatra laughed, first, at his own self-deluding folly.  “I’m a fool to want you,” he confessed.  “Each time I find myself flat on my face,” he admitted.  And, “Then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid.”  Self mocking didn’t mean that nothing mattered.  Love mattered.  Connection mattered.  Maybe he had blown it, yeah, but his blowing it didn’t mean it didn’t matter.  It mattered all the more.

“But,” you protest,” “He sang, ‘I’ve got the world on a string,’ ‘Ring a ding ding,’ ‘I did it my way.’”  Doesn’t that sound like a bully padrone?”

Maybe to some.  In Sinatra’s swagger I don’t hear, “I’m lording it over you,” I hear, “I’m jutting my chin out in spite of everything, and I’m going to give us all a good time.’”  I hear a tightrope moment of joy, joy won by the man’s own determination.  In the accent, and the ethos, I hear a triumph I can take from, participate in, at least vicariously.

People say that we feel sad when someone else dies because it is a reminder of our own mortality.  I don't feel very mortal this morning. Time feels to me like something I have so much of I can squander it typing out impassioned essays that will earn me no money and may never get published. 

But I know that world, that flavor, those values, those memories, even those accents of the New Immigrants are passing. 

Someone doing accent research says that New Yorkese, formerly so Yiddish and Irish, is becoming more Puerto Rican and Third World as immigrant populations shift. As silt in a river passes, the ethos changes, moves downstream, becomes not the color of the river but the bed for a planted field. 

I often ponder, if I ever have kids, how could I bring home to them what it was like growing up with a mother who was born in a river because my grandmother was taking a break from a hot session of sugar beet harvesting? 
Here's one way to communicate that ethos: by listening to "That's Life," or "My Way," or "A Very Good Year.”