Ten years ago I saw an atheist on a PBS discussion about
the existence of God. What I think of as my "little voice" prompted
me to contact the atheist. I honestly had no idea why – still don't – but I
trust intuition and follow the little voice.
I dashed off a hasty and rude email.
The atheist surprised me by writing back. He was charming
and engaging.
We continued writing back and forth to each other for the
next year. Then we stopped.
A year after we said goodbye, during moments when my mind
wandered, for example while standing in the checkout line in supermarkets, my
relationship with this atheist began to play itself out in my head in literary
form.
I'm a writer, and I've always got some script or opera or
short story or essay playing itself out in my head. If I didn't have to work
for a living, I'd happily spend all my time putting as many of these productions
on paper as I could.
Again, my "little voice" prompted me to put
this particular production down on paper, and I did. The result is the book
"Save
Send Delete."
From the start I knew that I wanted SSD to contain only
my emails to the atheist, whom I named "Rand," and not his back to
me.
Why?
When I was a kid, I read an historical novel that was
written that way. It consisted of the letters of an Ancient Roman to a woman he
loved. I was fascinated by that format because, counterintuitively, it got me
to know exactly who this woman was,
though her words, or even any description of her, never appeared on the page.
I wanted to be able to work that same magic on my
readers. I wanted them to know exactly who Rand was, even though he never
appeared on the page.
I wanted to do this for a very specific reason. I was
writing about God, a God many of us believe in, even though we never see him.
We are convinced that we experience him. I wanted the reader to experience
Rand, the absent Rand.
Franz Werfel does this in his masterpiece, "Song of
Bernadette." Werfel, a Jew, describes Bernadette Soubirous' witnessing an
apparition of the Blessed Virgin Mary, who tells her to drink and wash in muddy
water that suddenly runs clear, and that eventually plays some role in
miraculous healings. This is outlandish stuff. How does Werfel sell weird
miracles in a mass-market book? Werfel does not even attempt to describe the apparitions
at Lourdes in a believable way. Rather, he describes the reactions of observers in a way that I found completely believable.
Average people, confronted with the numinous, would react exactly as the
characters in Werfel's book.
In addition to writing about God, I was writing about
love, the other great mystery that we cannot see, that many of us don't believe
in, but that impresses us greatly.
I wanted to tell my story of how my correspondence with
Rand affected me. I couldn't possibly tell Rand's story of how our
correspondence affected him – I did not know.
And, again, I wanted to show how invisible entities –
God, or in this case, love – can leave a big impact, whether they exist or not.
And I didn't want to get sued.
And I didn't want to violate Rand's privacy, or his
marriage, or his reputation.
And I didn't want anyone to buy or read "Save Send
Delete" on the basis of his fame.
These are all my reasons for including only my emails in
"Save Send Delete."
About a year ago, a friend wrote to tell me that a famous
atheist had been accused of rape.
Should I go public with Rand's identity?
These are my thoughts.
First, "Save Send Delete" has sold very few
copies, and it appears that nothing is likely to change that. So, when I say
"publicly identify Rand," I'm talking about identifying Rand to the
three or four people who read my blog.
Second, Rand is no longer married to the woman he was
married to when he and I corresponded, so my saying this publicly can't have
any negative impact on that marriage.
His reputation is being hashed out by forces greater than
I – his few accusers, and his many and influential fans and friends.
The famous atheist with whom I corresponded in the
correspondence that inspired "Save Send Delete," is Michael Shermer.
Do I or does my book have anything to do with the rape
accusation?
No.
In our correspondence, Dr. Shermer was consistently polite
to me. I often reflected that I wished I could meet a prominent Catholic who
would treat me with equal respect, warmth, and encouragement. I enjoyed our
correspondence. I have no hard feelings or regrets. The one thing that pisses
me off is that he sells more books than I do; every writer knows exactly what I
mean. We all share this Grinch deep down in our souls. I remind my Grinch that Edward
Bulwer-Lytton sells more books than I do.
Did Dr. Shermer show any signs of being a rapist in his
correspondence with me?
No.
Does that prove anything?
No.
There really are such things as not knowing, and I do not
know, anything, at all, about these accusations. I wasn't there. I did not
attend the events in question. I did not meet the accusers. I have no
experience of this behavior.
No one would find any data of any kind in anything I've
written that would support any side of this controversy.
Why go "public" – to my tiny handful of blog
readers – about Rand's identity?
Again, because the negatives I listed above have been
eliminated, and because I want the luxury of speaking freely in those very
limited instances where mentioning the identity of the man who inspired Rand
arises.
I want to write a blog post, if I get around to it, on
the double standard in reviews of Dr. Shermer's new book. It's a book about
ethics, and reviews I've seen have not mentioned the accusations. That's a
double standard. If a Catholic cleric accused of rape were promoting a book
about ethics, you can bet your bottom dollar that atheist reviewers would mention
such accusations in their lead sentences.
I didn't want to comment on this double standard from
behind a curtain of pretense. I wanted to do the "full disclosure"
announcement that's ethically required when you speak in public about a race in
which you have some investment in one of the horses.
"Save Send Delete" contains no information that
any side could use in the current controversy. A typical passage from "Save
Send Delete," entitled "Marble in my Backpack," is linked below.
"Marble in My Backpack" is all about me. The only thing it tells you
about Michael Shermer is that interaction with him inspired me to write it. He
listened to me. The book is a testimony to the power of one person listening to
another. You can read "Marble in My Backpack" at this link here.
Yes. It does feel good to get this off my chest.