Nonie
Darwish's 2017 Regnery Faith book, Wholly
Different: Why I Chose Biblical Values over Islamic Values, is a
wide-ranging, reader-friendly view into the thinking of an Egyptian, Muslim
woman who immigrated to America at age 30 and began to compare and contrast the
values she was steeped in to those found in Judeo-Christian-influenced, Western
culture.
Darwish
was born in 1949 in Cairo, Egypt. She grew up in Egypt and Gaza. Her father,
Mustafa Hafez, created and oversaw an anti-Israel terror group. When Darwish
was eight, her father was assassinated by Israel. Egyptian President Nasser
praised Darwish's father as a shahid,
or martyr. Darwish immigrated to the US in 1978, and she has lived here ever
since. She converted to Christianity.
Wholly Different is part memoir, part sociological
observation, and part prophetic clarion. Darwish's style is cozy and conversational.
Her sentences are short and easy to read. Darwish paints a vast,
impressionistic landscape comparing the Muslim world to the West. She makes a
series of thought-provoking points in a rapid style. She quotes relevant
passages from Islamic scripture and shows how that scripture plays out in
modern societies. In contrast, she quotes important Biblical passages and
demonstrates how those have influenced the West.
Darwish
combines the maternal love one might find in a wise grandmother, the kind who
bakes cookies and contains a storehouse of folkloric wisdom, with the
stripped-to-the-bone truth-telling and no-time-to-waste urgency of an Old
Testament prophet. With every sentence, Darwish conveys the deep care she feels
for every reader with an insistence on being heard, and heard for every last
syllable.
As is
often the case, this book by a former Muslim is more fearlessly blunt than many
a counter-jihad statement by someone who has never been a Muslim. "Islamic
values versus Biblical values is a bloody collision waiting to happen. The West
must be warned," she writes. Darwish has seen jihad up close and personal.
She knows what is at stake, she has taken the measure of the wolf at the door,
and her call bursts forth like a trumpet. Just one example of the kind of
unique insights she can offer: in thirty years of living as a Muslim in the
most populous Arab state, she never heard anyone question why Mohammed, at over
fifty years old, took a six-year-old as his wife.
"A
fish doesn't know it is in water," goes the old saying. Perhaps nothing
dramatizes this point so vividly as Western women who marry Muslim men, travel
with those men to their natal countries, and are shocked to discover that
rights they took for granted as universal ceased to exist once they stepped
across a border and put their Western homeland at their back. One can see one
such woman, Stephanie, sobbing in a 2016 EXMNA video. "I was
certain that I was going to find a way to bring my daughters back, so I bought
them a bunch of clothes, but they haven't had a chance to wear them yet," Stephanie
says, with unbearable poignancy. The camera shows Stephanie's slender fingers
fondling princess dresses she had purchased for her daughters, dresses that her
daughters will never wear.
Stephanie
was born in Canada and married a Muslim man. She had two children by him. She convinced
herself that she and her Libyan husband could create a Canadian version of
Islam. She could prevent her husband from forcing hijab on her daughters, allow
the girls to listen to music, and take gymnastics. "We can mix both and be
happy," she thought. Islam, though, she said, demanded that her husband
"protect" his children from Stephanie; indeed, to protect Stephanie
from herself. Her husband, over the course of eighteen months, hatched a plot
to convince Stephanie to put her daughters on a plane so that he could attend
grad school in Europe. This was a lie. He had no plans for a European PhD. He
lured Stephanie into Libya, at which point she had no rights whatsoever.
Stephanie says that in Islamic terms, her husband was kind – because he had the
right to kill her, and he did not. It's five years later, and Stephanie has not
seen her children since. She may never see them again.
Why
did Stephanie make decisions that doomed her to a life of heartache and regret?
Especially given the bestselling 1987 book, Not
Without My Daughter? And numerous websites dedicated to warning Western women
about the potential pitfalls in marrying a Muslim man, websites like this one,
this one,
this one, this one,
this one,
and too many others to list? Maybe this is why. Maybe Stephanie had politically
correct teachers who told her that the West is an oppressive, racist, sexist
place. They told her, further, that Islam is a religion of peace. These fonts
of politically correct ideology emphasized cultural relativism. All religions
are the same, they told young Stephanie. All religions are about love.
Wholly Different is a three-alarm wake-up call from Nonie
Darwish. Darwish informs her reader that it's not just when it comes to terrorism
that Western and Muslim worldviews conflict. Rather, in a thousand little ways,
daily life is different. Darwish lists fifty-three features that, for her,
differentiate the Western worldview from the Muslim one. Darwish, as a trained
journalist and speaker of Arabic, cites canonical Islamic sources to support
her points. "Islam and democracy are contradictory and absolutely
incompatible," she writes. These are not her words. She is quoting an
imam.
Darwish
says that every feature is grounded in the foundational texts that inform each
culture. The West is inspired by the Judeo-Christian Bible. God is a father who
affirms his creation and wants to love us. God is rational. God wants so badly
to save us that he sacrificed his only son to die for us. In contrast, the
Muslim world is founded on and inspired by the Koran and the life and sayings
of Mohammed. Allah is not loving and he is not a father. Allah announces that
he does not need humans; if he wanted to, he could wipe humanity out and choose
to create some other lifeform. Allah is not only not rational, he is the
"greatest deceiver" who can grant or withhold an afterlife paradise
as he sees fit. Allah demands that humans not love him, but submit to him, as
slaves submit to their masters, and to sacrifice their lives for him.
Darwish
is a Christian, but an observant Atheist might have written a similar book. Atheist
Richard
Dawkins said "I am not aware of any Christian suicide bombers … I have
mixed feelings about the decline of Christianity, in so far as Christianity
might be a bulwark against something worse." Atheist Bill Maher said,
"The values of Western civilization are not just different, they're
better. I know a whole generation has been raised on the notion of
multiculturalism … Rule of law is better than autocracy and theocracy. Equality
of the sexes, better," and "Islam is not like other
religions. It is a unique threat. Christians do not believe that if you leave
the religion you should be killed for it … If they were beheading people in
Vatican City … don't you think there would be a bigger outcry? This is the soft
bigotry of low expectations that we have with Muslim people." Atheist Sam Harris has been
criticized for saying things like, "The truth is that Islam is quite a bit
scarier and more culpable for needless human misery than Christianity has been
for a very, very long time. We have to point this out. To be evenhanded … is to
misconstrue the problem."
Western
rights did not emerge ex nihilo. They are founded on Judeo-Christian religion
and Ancient Greek civilization. Thus the Supreme Court building, for example, is
modeled on the Parthenon, and while the building's frieze depicts lawgivers
from various cultures, the figure at its center and apex is Moses, the Jewish
lawgiver. He holds two tablets, representing the ten commandments. The rights
we in the West take for granted are not universal, but rather are specific to
the West, and based on our unique history. When we give up our foundations, we
give up our rights.
Darwish,
no wilting violet, brings the hammer down with her first sentence: don't you
dare, she warns, replace the word "Judeo-Christian" with the
politically correct neologism "Abrahamic," meant to elevate Islam to
Judeo-Christian status as a co-foundation for Western civilization. She links
the term "Abrahamic" to a Muslim Brotherhood document instructing
followers to "present Islam as a civilizational alternative" and
"destroy the Western Civilization from within." The West's
capitulation to this agenda, she says, "is undermining the Biblical values
of the West." As proof, she cites the Army's disciplining of a soldier who
attempted to rescue a boy sex slave from an Afghan police commander, who kept
the boy chained to his bed. She says that when she worked in Egypt, there were
no prayer rooms or foot faucets at her workplace. Now, Muslims demand these
perquisites in Western workplaces. This is part of civilizational jihad, she
says.
Darwish
describes Islam as a religion driven by a sense of competition with Jews and
Christians. Sixty-four percent of the Koran, she maintains, is devoted to
denigrating commentary about kafirs, or non-Muslims. "Do unto others as
you would have them do unto you" is totally alien to Islam, she says. "Islam
has nothing to do with Abraham and Biblical values. In fact, it awards the
highest esteem to Muslims who kill the children of Abraham, the Jews."
Darwish
charts her intellectual and spiritual journey from simple observations of
quotidian reality and larger trends. "Why is it that people in the West
stand in line to wait for their turn while in the Muslim world people step on
each other to get to be first? Why is it that in the West government leaders leave
their office at the end of their term peacefully while in the Muslim world
their term ends with either natural death or assassination?" Even in
asking these questions, she writes, she was violating cultural expectations.
"Asking questions and doubting is taboo in Islam."
Another
factor, she says, impeded her maturation in Egypt. "I came from a culture
where openly talking about one's true feelings, inadequacies, and
vulnerabilities was taboo." That kind of repression prevents personal
growth.
Darwish's
focus on her natal society's suppression of her self-awareness and admission of
vulnerability segues into the portion of the book that excited me the most.
Darwish argues that Allah encourages Muslims to hide sin, seeing public
admission of sin to be a sign of weakness, while the West encourages
individuals to acknowledge and come to terms with their own faults. When
Muslims sin, Allah covers those sins to allow the Muslim to avoid public
censure. Muslims are forbidden to expose each other's weaknesses to
non-Muslims. "Keeping up a good front" becomes a religious
obligation. Darwish writes, "Islamic logic does not see confession of sin
by Jews and Christians as a virtue or as the starting point to redemption and
an attempt to be better people. In Islam self-criticism, admitting sin, praying
for forgiveness, and openly exposing one's vulnerabilities and imperfections in
a search for the truth is worthy of punishment." Darwish quotes Mohammed,
"All of my community shall be pardoned, save those who commit sins
openly." If followers of a sheikh witness the sheikh committing a sin, the
follower should say, "it is my eyes that committed the sin" for
having witnessed a power figure do wrong. The Islamic view of public exposure
of sin feeds a culture based on pride and shame. The Koran is replete with
references to "shame," "disgrace," "humiliation,"
and "losers." There is no comparable mention of "losers" in
the Bible. In the Koran, in addition to being labeled "losers,"
Christians and Jews are also called "pigs," "apes," and
"unclean."
This emphasis
on hiding sin fuels honor killing, and Turkey's refusal to acknowledge the
Armenian Genocide, Darwish argues. As a contemporary, concrete example of this
advice to conceal sins, Darwish cites Islamweb's 2012 Fatwa number 184937.
A woman wrote to report that her husband sexually assaulted their fourteen-year-old
daughter. She asked what she should do. The religious expert responded that the
daughter should cover herself with hijab and the wife ought to "conceal
his sin" and continue to live as his wife.
Islam
on Demand, a YouTube channel, features a 2011 lecture by respected
sheikh Hamza Yusuf. Yusuf reflects Darwish's words. Islam demands that an
individual suppress urges, he says. In the West, Yusuf says, the attitude is
"don't harm anyone." In the Islamic worldview, he says, there is a
harm when forbidden behavior "emerges into the public space."
"What people do behind their closed doors is their own business."
Yusuf cites the example of alcohol. If people make and consume wine at home,
"that's between them and God. The minute they step into the public space,
then that is where sharia says no."
I
wrote about this aspect of the difference between Islamic worldviews and the
West in 2001:
"Ritualized,
religiously mandated confession generated, in the West, a culture-wide
valorization of self-examination, subjectivity, individuality, and change … Confession
caused believers to examine themselves, admit their errors, work for
self-improvement and to develop a linear / teleological mindset – to believe
that the future could be better than the past … This absence of ritualized,
valorized, narration of sin and redemption to one's fellows does not provide
the Muslim with the same cognitive, social or cultural exercise." I hope
that others pick up on this theme.
Darwish
cites many of the Koran verses and Hadith that call for jihad. One hadith
promises that killing a Jew or a Christian offers a Muslim a chance to be
redeemed from ever having to go to Hell. Darwish comments on the public
relations attempt to redefine "jihad" as peaceful self-improvement.
In Islamic texts, she says, jihad plainly means "war with non-Muslims to
establish the religion."
Wholly Different will be a rewarding read for those
interested in a big-picture comparison of the Muslim world and the West, from
an educated observer who has lived decades in both worlds and can support her
points with key texts and contemporary examples.
You can read this review at FrontPage magazine here
I checked interesting but this is more than interesting.... I think it borders on required reading for most of the useful idiots in the Western world. Thanks again for your insightful review and experiential color. Good job as always.
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